tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post1905731089676190841..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: Progress report: No progress.Sparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-78406374898300338912009-02-03T18:02:00.000-05:002009-02-03T18:02:00.000-05:00First things first: I'm really glad to hear the ca...First things first: I'm really glad to hear the cat came back. <BR/>Second, your stepdad's conduct is no surprise. It IS surprising that there are people in this world who don't understand the whole, 'relationship over, goodbye your stuff' thing. <BR/>If it is just a matter of money, though, I'm sure he could find someone to do it, and pay them handsomely for their time. Some student perhaps. Could you suggest this to him? Would he pay YOU?Emma Gorst https://www.blogger.com/profile/09692637018538270794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-30506132375185174072009-02-02T17:59:00.000-05:002009-02-02T17:59:00.000-05:00i'm glad your mom is taking a stand. i'm not glad...i'm glad your mom is taking a stand. i'm not glad you're the one who will end up picking up the slack.Jameilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242625946552047911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-40847582510837316802009-02-02T16:58:00.000-05:002009-02-02T16:58:00.000-05:00I'm all about throwing shit on the lawn. Or callin...I'm all about throwing shit on the lawn. Or calling someone to just take it all to goodwill. Enough is enough.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542230897888388433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-78910445478446628972009-02-02T14:57:00.000-05:002009-02-02T14:57:00.000-05:00Sabrae: The thing is that my mom is very attached ...Sabrae: The thing is that my mom is very attached to the idea of treating my step-dad's stuff right. Maybe she identifies with it, because for a long time she was his "stuff". So she would never just throw it out the window.<BR/><BR/>Karen: I can't quite figure out what my mom wants. She says she wants it all out, but his spare pair of shoes was STILL by the front door last time I was there. I would've at least thrown those in a box or closet or something.<BR/><BR/>Ron: She does have a fireplace. Maybe she could burn her way through all his junk. Books and clothes would burn up really nice.<BR/><BR/>Keera: Events like this definitely remind her why she's better off without him. Yes, she did find the cat, thank goodness. <BR/><BR/>Claire: So, you're rooting for the bonfire? And here I had you pegged as a pacifist. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Nicole: Thanks. No my mom isn't nearly as straightforward as that. She gets caught up in a web of "shoulds" and "what would the neighbours think". Actually, they'd probably think it was pretty cool!<BR/><BR/>Nilsa: It's absolutely true: they are better off without each other. Also, I spent all weekend thinking about why I insist upon involving myself in this struggle. I can't detach myself from it, no matter how I try. But maybe I shouldn't be so quick to jump in and commit myself to being in the middle even more.<BR/><BR/>LL Cool Joe: The cat did come back. It was very cold out, and the cat is a big, shivery wimp. He's probably the only one to get something positive out of that day. He's always happy to escape for some outdoor adventuring.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-20599857202270179842009-02-02T06:44:00.000-05:002009-02-02T06:44:00.000-05:00Yeah I think I'd just get all the boxes and dump t...Yeah I think I'd just get all the boxes and dump them too. <BR/><BR/>It's so sad when relationships end up like this and even sadder when other innocent people get dragged into it all too.<BR/><BR/>Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.<BR/><BR/>I hope your mother got her cat back too.LL Cool Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916666100971008775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-43180181989874834272009-02-01T10:24:00.000-05:002009-02-01T10:24:00.000-05:00From this post alone, it seems to me they are bett...From this post alone, it seems to me they are better off without one another, given it takes such effort to get even the simplest of things accomplished peacefully. Though, I know you're still processing it, so that comment might come off as harsh.<BR/><BR/>And secondly, in some ways, aren't you enabling their continued behavior by doing the dirty work for them? I mean, you mom has options - either do your step-dad's dirty work, ignore it and leave his boxes in her basement, or give him an ultimatum and if he doesn't follow through, put his boxes out on the curb. Right? Though, I do know how in some ways, it's just easier to do it for them and wipe your hands clean of the whole situation.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-64413956522727309562009-02-01T10:07:00.000-05:002009-02-01T10:07:00.000-05:00Hugs :(!!!And once more strong nerves!I'm more lik...Hugs :(!!!<BR/>And once more strong nerves!<BR/><BR/>I'm more like Sabrae, but from what I read so far, I know that your Mom isn't.<BR/>Sigh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-47087899851914750222009-02-01T08:13:00.000-05:002009-02-01T08:13:00.000-05:00I'm with Ron on this. Poor you, sweetie, what a n...I'm with Ron on this. Poor you, sweetie, what a nasty situation!<BR/><BR/>CxxClairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15681193035888306703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-84634093013856592402009-02-01T04:14:00.000-05:002009-02-01T04:14:00.000-05:00Y'know, when you put it like that, Spark, it sound...Y'know, when you put it like that, Spark, it sounds like your mom should be happy for the divorce, and maybe now she is.<BR/><BR/>Sadly, you aren't the only child of divorced parents who has to be the go-between, etc. And it really isn't <I>your</I> responsibility.<BR/><BR/>I'm with the others: Throw it out. Literally. Ron offers a good strategy. Or you could ask an organization like Goodwill if they'll take it all, unseen.<BR/><BR/>Did your mom find the cat?Keera Ann Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07466103379725251225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-56932386364698700022009-01-31T21:13:00.000-05:002009-01-31T21:13:00.000-05:00Ugh!Ugh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-69116184087691662742009-01-31T20:35:00.000-05:002009-01-31T20:35:00.000-05:00LOL... I guess so far we all agree that we would b...LOL... I guess so far we all agree that we would be meaner than your mom. I would trash it or put it in one of those storage places in his name and give him the key. He can either pay for storage after that or lose it or move it. Or a bonfire! OMG I love a good bonfire!!!!Warped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-12078962929179845522009-01-31T19:05:00.000-05:002009-01-31T19:05:00.000-05:00I agree with Sabrae. I'd throw his crap out. You...I agree with Sabrae. I'd throw his crap out. Your mom is not a storage center. If Dad doesn't want to do it, I guess he doesn't want his stuff that bad.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-90411757903369174812009-01-31T18:37:00.000-05:002009-01-31T18:37:00.000-05:00I dont' mean to sound out of line but I totally ag...I dont' mean to sound out of line but I totally agree with your mom! I wouldn't do it for him nor would I let anyone do it for him either! But your mom is a LOT nicer than I would be! My husband and I split up 2 years ago in april and we he went to move his stuff out he wanted me to pack it! I threw it out of the upstairs window and called and told him it was packed come and get it! :) See if I was your mom it would be sitting on the curb!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01002494232948282574noreply@blogger.com