tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post2198907446089799671..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: The TakerSparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-51514318717458240852010-01-29T11:42:16.323-05:002010-01-29T11:42:16.323-05:00Ily: Flattery is another thing that some people g...Ily: Flattery is another thing that some people give honestly, and some give to be manipulative. It's not always easy to tell which is which.<br /><br />Jameil: The only time I would feel bad is if I were invited to a birthday party and EVERYONE else brought a gift but I forgot. Except that's never happened, because I'm very organized around gift occasions.<br /><br />Jenski: I know what you mean. I feel very irritated if someone instructs me to show affection to a third person. Either I feel affection and I will express it, or I don't and I won't. If I don't want to give someone a call to say "I love you", you telling me to do it won't make the love part true.<br /><br />Nicole: In reality, I'm both too.<br /><br />Dianne: That's good! I find life gets a lot better when you can receive without stress.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-47457228734041519042010-01-29T11:36:30.850-05:002010-01-29T11:36:30.850-05:00Ron: It's true, some people give in order to ...Ron: It's true, some people give in order to be manipulative. It's a problem when you're not sure whether or not to trust that person.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-73513507321387739752010-01-28T21:21:33.853-05:002010-01-28T21:21:33.853-05:00I love that you freely admit it. It's a perfec...I love that you freely admit it. It's a perfectly fine way to be/feel.<br />I have learned to accept more readily.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-15060860147464620452010-01-28T12:59:22.638-05:002010-01-28T12:59:22.638-05:00I'm both :)
I think that's ok :)I'm both :)<br />I think that's ok :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06735273216574108695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-76769983927069317362010-01-27T09:25:40.185-05:002010-01-27T09:25:40.185-05:00We had this whole gift conversation with my immedi...We had this whole gift conversation with my immediate family at Christmas. My take - if you want to give a gift and have the financial resources, go ahead!! If it is being suggested that you exchange gifts with a cousin through the parents, screw that. :-)<br /><br />I think I blush when I get things unexpectedly. I agree that getting is great and also people's reactions when go you give.Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-85439971040858170992010-01-27T03:09:08.594-05:002010-01-27T03:09:08.594-05:00Lol! What a delightfully honest post! I can say ...Lol! What a delightfully honest post! I can say I like to both give and receive. BUT I def. feel bad if people give me something and i don't have something to give them.Jameilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242625946552047911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-47992781939072765572010-01-26T22:16:18.457-05:002010-01-26T22:16:18.457-05:00You don't hear too many people say "it...You don't hear too many people say "it's better to take than to receive" and I don't think that's what you're saying here. What I get from you is that you're appreciative and enjoy the things people give and do for you. There's nothing wrong with that. I love when someone really loves what I give them! I should learn to take more compliments, but I don't respond well to flattery.Ileanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11200869126695231050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-75828422495726334222010-01-26T18:25:19.909-05:002010-01-26T18:25:19.909-05:00But when I offered you that cold I had you said yo...But when I offered you that cold I had you said you didn't want it?!? I'm not good at recieving, my mind starts wondering what they want, are they playing games, are they trying to influence me??? ummm... guess I'm a little paranoidWarped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-91035634085975531052010-01-26T16:36:56.966-05:002010-01-26T16:36:56.966-05:00WIGSF: The distinction is that you didn't hav...WIGSF: The distinction is that you didn't have anything specific in mind. I usually can't think of anything I want when someone makes me an open-ended offer. But if you actually walked up to me with a chocolate cupcake and offered it to me, I wouldn't say no.<br /><br />Karen: It's a good thing to be able to receive gracefully. When I do give gifts or time to people, I'd rather see them enjoy the process, rather than feel all guilty and awkward. I guess lately I've been feeling a little selfish, due to being under too much stress, which is why I feel like a "taker" rather than a recipient.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-79053251047444994292010-01-26T16:12:42.949-05:002010-01-26T16:12:42.949-05:00Interesting. I am a good combo of both. Complime...Interesting. I am a good combo of both. Compliments are often difficult to receive and I always feel awkward when receiving an unexpected gift.<br /><br />Being a graceful acceptor (which I like rather than taker) is wonderful trait.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-91884943196737649202010-01-26T15:06:30.507-05:002010-01-26T15:06:30.507-05:00I dispute your claims of being a taker. I offered ...I dispute your claims of being a taker. I offered to give you something and you refused. Not that I'm surprised. I've offered to give things to plenty of women and none of them ever want to take me up on my offer.<br /><br />Bah, women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com