tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post4989088164062120125..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: GuiltSparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-91318065628022709982010-04-04T10:21:49.242-04:002010-04-04T10:21:49.242-04:00Happy Easter, my friend!! :)Happy Easter, my friend!! :)Ileanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11200869126695231050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-17381031667115391722010-04-02T08:23:45.262-04:002010-04-02T08:23:45.262-04:00I grew up Roman Catholic but spent much of my time...I grew up Roman Catholic but spent much of my time with my Jewish Nana<br /><br />for me there were few differences in the daily-ness of either religion - rules and judgements where what I learned<br /><br />what I did adore was learning the traditions of Russia and the foods and the music and the stories<br /><br />but my Nana was exceptional in that she accepted everyone <br /><br />I have always felt that organized religion does a lot to fragment people, I think to make them easier to control<br /><br />Nana used to say that guilt started with the church/synagogue and was then perfected at homeDiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-20611740645231724662010-04-01T18:31:47.184-04:002010-04-01T18:31:47.184-04:00Guilt is a terrible time waster. I must be weird ...Guilt is a terrible time waster. I must be weird because I don't seem to feel guilt for things - unless you know, I'm really guilty. I didn't grow up Jewish or Catholic so maybe that has something to do with it? Baptists didn't seem to be big in trying to induce false guilt, at least not in my experience. That's something to be grateful for at least! LOL It's good not to have it, so good for you for ditching it. :)DarcsFalconhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01757804686134389853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-87939396142653039062010-04-01T11:32:41.785-04:002010-04-01T11:32:41.785-04:00Kate: I haven't seen you write about your chi...Kate: I haven't seen you write about your childhood on your blog, so it's interesting to hear that you grew up in a similar environment. It's tough to shake, isn't it!<br /><br />Ron: That is so well put. What you call yourself doesn't matter - it's all about what you do that proves what kind of person you are.<br /><br />Jameil: Yup, it was stressful alright. The upside is that plain old normal life seems like heaven compared to the daily hell I used to live in with my parents. It made me into a more grateful person.<br /><br />WIGSF: Family are the people you can't get rid of, even when you want to. At least I enjoy my mom's family around 50% of the time, which is a better percentage than some people have.<br /><br />Jenski: Thanks! It does help. I have to keep reminding myself of my new resolution, but it will sink in eventually.<br /><br />Ily: I'm glad that you found my post thought-provoking. I have heard "therapy" described as any process which makes the unconscious conscious, so that we can make different choices. I don't think we need a professional therapist to do that. We just need each other and honesty.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-46264521486139790052010-04-01T07:20:05.773-04:002010-04-01T07:20:05.773-04:00Much of what you've addressed in this post hit...Much of what you've addressed in this post hits home. You've made me think about guilt this morning and how some people use it (even in a passive-aggressive way) to try to control others. I have a Relative A, too...a AND b.<br /><br />It's good to know that you can sit back and figure it all out without going crazy, and write about it without feeling guilty.<br /><br />I'm sure your decision wasn't made over night; you've done the research and felt you've chosen a belief that makes sense to you, that speaks to your heart. I admire you for that.<br /><br />A beautiful post, my friend. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and Happy Easter!! :)Ileanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11200869126695231050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-67998929348135466142010-03-31T22:48:01.235-04:002010-03-31T22:48:01.235-04:00What a weight you must have lifted (or are still p...What a weight you must have lifted (or are still pushing off) yourself. I hope this realization helps manage family get-togethers too. Happy Passover.Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-86077065571352978762010-03-31T15:03:24.180-04:002010-03-31T15:03:24.180-04:00Remember, family is just a bunch of people you are...Remember, family is just a bunch of people you are forced to spend time with. Doesn't mean they can't be assholes sometimes. In public, you'll meet the occasional asshole. Somewhere, that asshole has a family. Sometimes, it's your own family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-25410317254831882652010-03-31T15:00:50.862-04:002010-03-31T15:00:50.862-04:00What a stressful way to grow up! I'm so glad ...What a stressful way to grow up! I'm so glad you now recognize it and are working to get from under it!!Jameilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242625946552047911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-8943201335109585282010-03-31T14:43:05.454-04:002010-03-31T14:43:05.454-04:00Glad you are attempting to break the cycle. Guilt ...Glad you are attempting to break the cycle. Guilt is that tool where you only feel better by knocking the next person down and then they do the same with others. Before long everyone is miserable. I find it odd how some people get hung up on the label of Religion you choose when what's really important is the person you are and what you do with that.Warped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-73868208939405162612010-03-31T13:58:04.645-04:002010-03-31T13:58:04.645-04:00I feel like I grew up in your home with those last...I feel like I grew up in your home with those last couple paragraphs. Guilt or - as my therapist makes me say - SHAME - was/is/has been the basis of my identity for so long, that I still have trouble recognizing it for what it is. I'm working on it. You too!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542230897888388433noreply@blogger.com