tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post6534513645983485172..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: Family History, Part IISparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-8431973313882091492008-01-27T21:35:00.000-05:002008-01-27T21:35:00.000-05:00Kell: Thanks. I care about them too much to turn ...Kell: Thanks. I care about them too much to turn my back on either of them, so I guess I'll just do what I can to help them out.<BR/><BR/>Nicole: Thank you. Life sure is weird. You just never know what's coming. I comfort myself with the thought that there are as many happy surprises as sad ones.<BR/><BR/>Aurora: Yeah, that does make it harder. It's an emotionally loaded situation. Thanks for your support, online and off. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Jenski: That's what makes it worse for my mom - she really is losing a friend. She invested so much into their relationship! Oh well, I guess it's time for her to make a new start. She'll be OK, eventually.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-30114147513451875942008-01-27T21:28:00.000-05:002008-01-27T21:28:00.000-05:00Oiy. I can see how difficult it must be to once b...Oiy. I can see how difficult it must be to once be so unhappy around the man, see everything turn around, and then this. :( They obviously became good friends over the years if he is sharing, even if he shouldn't be.Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-31780887062392614702008-01-27T12:25:00.000-05:002008-01-27T12:25:00.000-05:00It must be painful to comfort someone who bullied ...It must be painful to comfort someone who bullied you and your mum for years. It's good that he's 'come around' enough to understand and hear your gentle advice ... and reading self-help is great... but talking to him can't be easy. It's very good of you to keep the lines of communication open with him, I feel.Emma Gorst https://www.blogger.com/profile/09692637018538270794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-64509656719834709452008-01-26T21:41:00.000-05:002008-01-26T21:41:00.000-05:00Uh, it's good to know that he managed to turn into...Uh, it's good to know that he managed to turn into a better person and you guys could make up.<BR/>It's just so sad that after all that time he now tried his luck with a new girl.<BR/>Life is weird sometimes.<BR/>:(<BR/>Loads of strength to you and your Mom!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-45312700634715688682008-01-26T17:32:00.000-05:002008-01-26T17:32:00.000-05:00The middle is not a fun place to be, but as jameil...The middle is not a fun place to be, but as jameil1922 said, you're helping them both. I understand why this is so hard for you now. I wish things could be easier, but it's good that you are staying close to both of them.Kellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07275488871572628293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-27517724867112228142008-01-26T16:50:00.000-05:002008-01-26T16:50:00.000-05:00Ron: Thanks. We'll get through it. I have faith ...Ron: Thanks. We'll get through it. I have faith that peace will come in time.<BR/><BR/>Jameil: Yeah, we're all in this together, so it's best if I can find the willingness to help my folks get through this. I can't always - sometimes I just want to be left out of it. But it's not like I really have much of a choice. I love them both too much to shut them out.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-45484840653551850592008-01-26T15:04:00.000-05:002008-01-26T15:04:00.000-05:00don't think of it as stuck in the middle. you're ...don't think of it as stuck in the middle. you're helping both of them. you're sparing your mom's feelings while helping him to become a better person even through this time of confusion. the missing out on nurturing thing explains a lot.Jameilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242625946552047911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-74351512525179068782008-01-26T14:09:00.000-05:002008-01-26T14:09:00.000-05:00Well I'm glad he found some help to be a better pe...Well I'm glad he found some help to be a better person and maintain that connection with you. I feel for what you and your mother must be going through right now and hope you find some peace with it.Warped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-15966165312012107782008-01-26T12:40:00.000-05:002008-01-26T12:40:00.000-05:00Keera: Thank goodness for your grandparents. It's...Keera: Thank goodness for your grandparents. It's so important to have that experience of a safe home and real love. I'm glad that you had at least some of that in your childhood.<BR/><BR/>R.E.H.: Yes, it was better than every before. I'm not losing my step-dad, because he wants to keep being a dad to me, but I'm losing that united family. There will always be someone missing at family events from now on, since he won't be there.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-37338082007179351642008-01-26T12:03:00.000-05:002008-01-26T12:03:00.000-05:00I see why you are so heartbroken about their separ...I see why you are so heartbroken about their separation. Especially since you felt that you were all re-connecting on an emotional level - and maybe better than ever before, right?<BR/><BR/>It really sucks when you've lost many years, and just as you find a way to make of for all those lost years something happens that makes it no longer possible.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing this with us.R.E.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04959653462160442710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-52733596366925555502008-01-26T10:03:00.000-05:002008-01-26T10:03:00.000-05:00Man, he really missed out on the 70's, didn't he, ...Man, he really missed out on the 70's, didn't he, when everybody else was doing that "I gotta be me" thing - and only years later realizing that it isn't sacrificing yourself to support love and loving.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry that this mess is happening and has happened to you. I started out with parents who did not get along, and was relieved when they got divorced, and even more relieved when my grandparents stepped in and gave me a home. A real home and real love. <BR/><BR/>I get that now that your step-dad is finally figuring it out, he's figuring it out with the wrong people. I hope he comes to his senses. I wish you and your mom patience and strength.Keera Ann Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07466103379725251225noreply@blogger.com