tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post9037454250375914983..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: The Big Split, Part ISparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-88108177355156117072008-01-31T18:36:00.000-05:002008-01-31T18:36:00.000-05:00I think it's so important and brave that you write...I think it's so important and brave that you write about this. It's hard to put it on paper, I imagine. (I can only imagine--I haven't been through a separation that deep or protracted.)Emma Gorst https://www.blogger.com/profile/09692637018538270794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-28606497830898843012008-01-31T11:57:00.000-05:002008-01-31T11:57:00.000-05:00Bee: For real! The stuff becomes a focus for all ...Bee: For real! The stuff becomes a focus for all the emotions that are otherwise very confusing and hard to pin down.<BR/>I'm picturing your ex putting his carry-on through the x-ray machine, and the security guards puzzling over why he's got spoons, forks, and butterknives for six in his luggage.<BR/><BR/>mex (aka Syb): Yes, that is a good thing for your friend. I wish I'd gotten married on Feb 29th! That anniversary still gets to me.<BR/>Thanks for your kind words! I'm glad to know that you're here each day to see what's up. Gives me the warm'n'fuzzies.<BR/>;-)Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-61356602905088918592008-01-31T10:16:00.000-05:002008-01-31T10:16:00.000-05:00MY GF has a divorce (being official) coming right ...MY GF has a divorce (being official) coming right up next month<BR/><BR/>Feb 29<BR/><BR/>That's Leap Year<BR/><BR/>She remarked, 'At least I won't have to think (mourn?) the official date but once every 4 years.'<BR/><BR/>GOOD MOVE ! (punny?)<BR/><BR/>Best,<BR/><BR/>Syb<BR/><BR/>PS.. forget how i found yr blog (likely a comment from a blog i read regulary).. and there are only a handful of those.. less than a haandful.. maybe "alex-happily ever now" ?????<BR/><BR/>anyhoo, I added you to that teeny weeny Must Read Daily list and have enjoyed 2 things already<BR/><BR/>1. yr way w/ words<BR/>2. that you update a lotZoemonsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17877620156823500528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-34425305698651109412008-01-31T02:14:00.000-05:002008-01-31T02:14:00.000-05:00When I got divorced I felt as you did - take the b...When I got divorced I felt as you did - take the bare minimum and and have it over and done with.<BR/>The ex was kind of anal about dividing everything in half which was pretty funny seeing as he had to return to England after the split. Who would really want to take half a cutlery set on the plane?!Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07203006751714217291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-17616242188295423572008-01-31T02:13:00.000-05:002008-01-31T02:13:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07203006751714217291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-84758104312004572192008-01-30T21:01:00.000-05:002008-01-30T21:01:00.000-05:00Thomas: Truly. There is no perforation running nea...Thomas: Truly. There is no perforation running neatly down the middle of a shared life. There are so many things you can't split in half, so then you fight.<BR/><BR/>Tequila Mockingbird: So you're living through it too. It sure sucks, doesn't it. :-p<BR/><BR/>Karen: When you spend that long with someone, there's no part of your life that doesn't feel like something's missing once they're gone. It's completely pervasive. <BR/><BR/>Jenski: And then the stuff becomes symbolic of their emotional battles and no one wants to give in. Some couples end up losing it all to the lawyers. By the time they figure out who's getting what, there's almost nothing left. It's nuts.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-23248080439749883592008-01-30T20:50:00.000-05:002008-01-30T20:50:00.000-05:00Oiy. As if people really need the frustration and...Oiy. As if people really need the frustration and pain of dividing their stuff up on top of everything.Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-2493277229016678602008-01-30T19:18:00.000-05:002008-01-30T19:18:00.000-05:00That is how I felt when I broke up with my ex. We...That is how I felt when I broke up with my ex. We weren't married, but we were best friends and dating for over 10 years. I had to learn who I was without him. That was really, really hard.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-27425800785646693922008-01-30T17:01:00.000-05:002008-01-30T17:01:00.000-05:00ugh, parents splitting up is bad. my parents are ...ugh, parents splitting up is bad. my parents are on year two of their divorce. i wish they would just get it over with. quick is way better.Tequila Mockingbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10898464891080149448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-91967573122136545602008-01-30T16:35:00.000-05:002008-01-30T16:35:00.000-05:00I am a lawyer so I have heard the maxim that famil...I am a lawyer so I have heard the maxim that family law is the hardest part of the life precisely because it is impossible to say, "This is yours and this is mine," without people getting bent out of shape.Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13892964135889989419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-9061563399873533662008-01-30T15:47:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:47:00.000-05:00R.E.H.: I had no idea how brutal the experience of...R.E.H.: I had no idea how brutal the experience of a divorce could be until I went through mine. And relatively speaking, mine was easy! No kids, and for the most part we were able to agree on stuff with a minimum of verbal jousting. <BR/><BR/>Staying single sounds like a VERY attractive option when you're in the middle of a divorce.Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-53904738861636540512008-01-30T15:43:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:43:00.000-05:00Ron: Yeah, my theory is that just because a relati...Ron: Yeah, my theory is that just because a relationship ends doesn't mean it's a failure. It just means it was finite. Some failed relationships refuse to die, and those are also very painful.<BR/><BR/>Jameil: I moved out in July 2001. The divorce wasn't finalized until November of 2003, and it was May 2004 before my legal name change was finalized. For the longest time I thought about him constantly and then dreamed about him at night. It was compulsive. It took many years to get past that.<BR/><BR/>Maxie: Aw geez. So you know how it is. Too bad there isn't any set expiry date for those feelings. It would be more bearable if at least you could count down the days until you felt differently. :-(Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-36251297746793723892008-01-30T15:37:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:37:00.000-05:00I can only imagine how painfull the process of a d...I can only imagine how painfull the process of a divorce must be.<BR/><BR/>The dividing of stuff (and so much of it would've been acquired together, right), the loss of something that one has become accustomed to (even if it was a long time since it was appreciated).<BR/><BR/>Maybe being single isn't so bad, after all? ;)R.E.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04959653462160442710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-57084835410627931512008-01-30T15:33:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:33:00.000-05:00this is still how I feel. and it's been 2 years. u...this is still how I feel. and it's been 2 years. ugh.Maxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16309902108360535182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-44159904230353861512008-01-30T15:08:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:08:00.000-05:00oh man i'm once again so glad my long term relatio...oh man i'm once again so glad my long term relationship ended BEFORE marriage. its ridiculously hard to unentwine yourself when you consider that person your best friend. i still want to call him almost everyday. how long has it been since your divorce?Jameilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242625946552047911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-14860223690577067462008-01-30T12:31:00.000-05:002008-01-30T12:31:00.000-05:00I agree that the quicker is easier, but like you s...I agree that the quicker is easier, but like you said in long term things nothing is quick or easy. I'm not the best one to ask about relationships, but it seems better to end things than to keep them going for no real reason. Best of luck to you and your mom.Warped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.com