tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post930192593724168876..comments2023-08-15T11:03:58.591-04:00Comments on Adventures in Sparkland: Pre-HistorySparkling Redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-11713887049171250532009-01-07T11:30:00.000-05:002009-01-07T11:30:00.000-05:00Scarlet: Thanks. If there is inspiration to be f...Scarlet: Thanks. If there is inspiration to be found in the story, that brings me joy! :-)Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-66175159837174229042009-01-07T09:32:00.000-05:002009-01-07T09:32:00.000-05:00You can't get more real than this post. It's awes...You can't get more real than this post. It's awesome and sad and inspirational all at the same time.<BR/><BR/>My heart goes out to you.Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17560614073319109150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-73565868290204188142009-01-06T06:50:00.000-05:002009-01-06T06:50:00.000-05:00Nilsa: I've been accused of being over-emotional,...Nilsa: I've been accused of being over-emotional, but I'd rather err on the side of feeling more than feeling too little. The world has too many people who shrug "whatever" and go back to flipping channels. :-)<BR/><BR/>Kate: I don't know you well, but I know that you know what you're talking about on this topic. Thanks for the encouragement. :-)Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-1287091382758258462009-01-05T14:33:00.000-05:002009-01-05T14:33:00.000-05:00Writing it makes it all the more real and tangible...Writing it makes it all the more real and tangible. I have discovered that putting it on paper/typing it is very helpful in working on grief. You're going somewhere, girlie. You'll come out on the upside. You will.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542230897888388433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-52233414382224239902009-01-04T12:37:00.000-05:002009-01-04T12:37:00.000-05:00I think it says tremendous things about you that y...I think it says tremendous things about you that you feel such deep and incredible loss over someone you didn't know, over a situation you couldn't control.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-12239114928605951432009-01-03T18:20:00.000-05:002009-01-03T18:20:00.000-05:00Ron: *receiving hugs* :-) Thank you!!Sabrae: Gr...Ron: *receiving hugs* :-) Thank you!!<BR/><BR/>Sabrae: Grief does suck. Thanks for the love! I loves ya too. :-)<BR/><BR/>Unsigned: I hope so.<BR/><BR/>Nicole: Thank you for the hugs and warm wishes! It's so much better to write online, rather than in a journal no one will ever read. Some things have to be shared to be healed.<BR/><BR/>Karen: It is weird. I think I somehow took on some of my mom's grief, because hers was so strong and I identified with her. It doesn't make logical sense, but it's real to me.<BR/><BR/>Keera: That must have been very difficult for your family. The grief involved isn't so much about things you had that were lost, but about potentials that will never manifest, or at least not in this realm. Those are real losses too.<BR/>I do sometimes fall into the trap of thinking that my life is tragic, but I try to snap myself out of that selfish error as quickly as possible. There are so many people who have been way worse off. I try to keep things in perspective without minimizing. It's a tough balance, sometimes.<BR/><BR/>Syb: (((HUGS))) <BR/><BR/>Dianne: That's the best we can do, isn't it? Muddle on. I wish my mother's side of the family were better listeners, but the communication just doesn't happen. At least I can talk with my mom. That's the most important thing. The others, well, I try to be courteous and kind, but I don't expect anything much in return.<BR/><BR/>Floreta: I do. It made a huge difference to write it all down and get it off my chest. I don't know how that magic happens, but it's good medicine. :-)Sparkling Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799366562472325812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-11232341029389375502009-01-03T17:21:00.000-05:002009-01-03T17:21:00.000-05:00its amazing how someone you've never even met can ...its amazing how someone you've never even met can affect you so much.. this was a good entry. i hope you feeling better after writing it.floretahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18220834824793299258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-59856991413933332982009-01-03T16:45:00.000-05:002009-01-03T16:45:00.000-05:00I had to catch up on the other posts - just to get...I had to catch up on the other posts - just to get a full sense of where you are <BR/><BR/>I know a lot about these phases - I push them away a lot - sometimes I deal with them, many times I don't <BR/><BR/>I do believe that in times of extreme emotional stress, pain, grief that people do the best they can<BR/><BR/>my family has always been big on hide and forget and it has always been a problem for me<BR/><BR/>but I muddle on<BR/><BR/>hugsDiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-57085379955933619492009-01-03T08:31:00.000-05:002009-01-03T08:31:00.000-05:00very brave. and sad. LYvery brave. and sad. LYZoemonsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17877620156823500528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-25112897619017729122009-01-03T07:51:00.000-05:002009-01-03T07:51:00.000-05:00I sort of kind of can understand this kind of loss...I sort of kind of can understand this kind of loss-that-isn't-a-loss. My kid sister was born severely mentally handicapped because my mother got rubella while pregnant. One time I connected psychically with my sister (I know I did, because when I met her later, she acknowledged me for the first time). The person inside her that I got to talk to was lively and cheerful and I found myself missing my sister. Missing the person she could have been, the friend she could have been, the co-conspirator she could have been. I am absolutely certain we would have had a lot of fun together. And in that is a sense of loss, of grief. But <I>I</I> don't feel tragic in any way; I am happy I loved my sister even if she wasn't aware of me. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps you could turn that womb feeling around to being a gift from your sister ("I kept it occupied for you so you could be born at just the right time for <I>you</I>."). There are so many ways to look at this. Your parents' (perceived) grief does not have to be yours. Your life is not a tragedy just because something bad happened during it.Keera Ann Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07466103379725251225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-54460979137911148482009-01-03T07:10:00.000-05:002009-01-03T07:10:00.000-05:00So sorry. It seems strange that we can carry grie...So sorry. It seems strange that we can carry grief for someone we never met. But at the same time it is totally logical that something that effected you family so fundamentally would cause grief. <BR/><BR/>I am so sorry!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-17535329655851645352009-01-03T02:05:00.000-05:002009-01-03T02:05:00.000-05:00You are on a good path.Thinking about it, writing ...You are on a good path.<BR/>Thinking about it, writing about it, talking about it.<BR/>Accepting is healing.<BR/>Hugs my friend and the warmest wishes for you, your family and Baby sister. Rest in peace!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06735273216574108695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-45225530041537487982009-01-02T23:26:00.000-05:002009-01-02T23:26:00.000-05:00Rest in peace sister. You'll meet her in heaven wh...Rest in peace sister. You'll meet her in heaven when the time is right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-35089409357232240812009-01-02T22:24:00.000-05:002009-01-02T22:24:00.000-05:00Greif sucks! :( That's all I can say becuz I am re...Greif sucks! :( That's all I can say becuz I am really no good at this kinda thing.. so umm Grief sucks! Love ya! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01002494232948282574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620546355443994788.post-69286645712791418322009-01-02T21:55:00.000-05:002009-01-02T21:55:00.000-05:00{{HUGS}}So many things effect us all as we grow. S...{{HUGS}}<BR/>So many things effect us all as we grow. Some thing harder than others. Sometimes the grief will be locked away for a time and come out when it's ready. We all deal with it in our own way.Warped Mind of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15670039992710968421noreply@blogger.com