Thursday, January 8, 2009

OK, I'm not in a crisis anymore - and I forget how to write about normal life.  How does this work again?  It's so much easier to pick a topic when there is a giant worry on my mind.

I saw my step-dad again.  Last time we spoke, I told him that I was ready to get to know his new* girlfriend.  They've been together for a year now.  It's time to face up to reality and stop pretending like she doesn't exist.  For reasons both practical and moral, I need to build a relationship with her.  But we can start with babysteps.

Like this: he brought in some photos of her.  He doesn't have any current ones.  She's around 70 years old now.  But he did have some ancient snaps of back in the day, when they were young lovers in Scotland.  This was in the early 1960's, when they were in their early 20's.  My first thought when I saw the photo he held out to me was:

"Hey, that's Bjork!"

There was more than just a passing resemblance.  She was a beauty alright, and she could have been Bjork's identical twin.  My step-dad had no idea who Bjork was, aside from the mention she recently got in the news for offering to help out Iceland's economy.  I went online and found some photos.  He was also impressed by the similarity.

I wonder what she looks like now.  Apparently she dyes her hair blond.  I can't picture it.

*By new I mean: they dated in their 20's, split up, and then got back together almost 50 years later, at the expense of my parents marriage. (for the benefit of my newer readers)


Warped Mind of Ron said...

Well I guess after a year you sort of have to deal with her. Or you can just pretend she doesn't exist and if you concentrate real hard she will just fade away.... I'm just guessing about that last part.

NicoleB said...

Babysteps is a good way to go.

Anonymous said...

I'm afraid of Bjork. She scares me.

Anonymous said...

I like Bjork!

SoMi's Nilsa said...

Your maturity surpasses that of 99.9% of humankind. Now, let's just hope the girlfriend isn't as crazy off the wall the way Bjork can be...

Karen said...

I don't mean to be insulting to this probably lovely lady, but I find Bjork horrible looking.

She is almost offensive to my corneas.

Sorry. Just being honest.

Warped Mind of Ron said...

I think I would date Bjork, but it would freak me out when she yelled at me for stuff because I can't even understand her when she sings. Hmmmm I guess I could consider that a positive.

floreta said...

bleh, why do i think this kind of getting back together relationship is sweet?

and, i love bjork.

Scarlet said...

An old, blonde Bjork. Hmm...that should be interesting.

Sounds like you're ready to accept this woman as a part of your step-dad's life. That's a healthy step. Good luck w/ it!

Claire said...

Babysteps indeed. Thinking of you, honey.


Sparkling Red said...

Ron: Or maybe I could throw a bucket of water on her and she'd melt.

Nicole: Thanks! :-)

Whatigotsofar: I know what you mean. She's crazy-scary.

Unsigned: I like her too, even though she's kind of scary. I can enjoy her from a safe distance.

Nilsa: Well, if she's crazy it'll make for some good blog posts.

Karen: Really? I always thought that Bjork was cute, especially in her youth. But she is an odd-looking woman. Not to everyone's taste, I guess.

Ron Part Deux: I can imagine Bjork having supernatural voice powers. Like she could make your head explode just by singing angrily.

Floreta: If my step-dad hadn't already been married, it would be a very sweet story.

Scarlet: Thanks! I hope that she's not mean. If she's even somewhat normal and polite, I think I can manage being with her.

Claire: Thank you. :-)

Aurora said...

Almost everyone looks good in their twenties. One friend of mine was a model at 18. She has completely stunning photos to show for it!

But it sounds like you're being very level headed about this. For some people it takes years (!) to get to the point of, "Okay, let's meet the Other Woman.."